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“Thank you for the talk – I feel better equipped to support my mum”.

Unfortunately, I was unable to support my mum with her menopause. Firstly, because she did not understand what it was or what was happening to her and secondly, because she would never have told me even if she did or asked for any help.

Upon reflection, I remember changes, I remember worrying about her, but I did not understand what was happening.

I now see a huge and extremely positive shift in the workplace.

My work is for everyone and you might be surprised to understand that I get a huge amount of individuals in their 20’s attend. It is a delight to have them there. They are willing to attend, want to understand in order to be able to support their workplace colleagues, but so many go away being able to support their mums. 

It is rare that a presentation will go by without those individuals stopping to speak to me at the end about what is happening at home. I hear comments such as “You’ve just described my mum and she has been to the doctor, prescribed anti-depressants and I am now sure it is menopause.” I can’t say whether it is or it isn’t menopause but what is being created is a different conversation at home, as well as at work. 

There is still, in many cases, a generational issue with regard to what we will and won’t share with our children, which continues to be fully respected. However, can we start these conversations in order to get the right support.

I provide attendees with literature to take home to help approach the conversation. Maybe mum won’t talk, but she might read the leaflet. 

I’m inspired by the younger generation who attend and who embrace education. 

There has been a huge shift in awareness of this topic over the past couple of years, but please do not assume everyone now knows what this is. They really don’t and there is still so much more work to do.

Here are a few top tips to help support your mum:

  • Listen – ask her if she wants to share and really listen to what she is telling you. If she doesn’t feel she can share with you, ask her who she feels she can speak to and encourage her to do so. 
  • Lighten the load – the smallest of things can make such a positive difference. Offer to do a household job, get some shopping or just make her a cuppa. 
  • Giver her a hug and let her know you are there for her. 
  • Go for a walk with her – it’s amazing how differently we can feel, talk and think when we are out in nature. 
  • Remind her she is brilliant! So many women lose their confidence. What can you do to help her try and rebuild it?